This New Year!

Happy New Year!

To another year of change, continuity and just plain rollercoaster ride of emotions, tasks and actions. Every year at this time we decide to make resolutions to change and improve ourselves. Usually I make a couple, like everybody else. But this year the only one I will be making only one and that is to just continue where I left off.

By that I mean continuing writing this blog and posting every Monday and Thursday on a continuous basis, hoping that what I write, will entertain you each time.



A reflection of the year

Soon enough it will be the start of a new year, of 2018. I thought that today’s post would be about the reflections of our accomplishments and success’ of the year, as well as the minor short comings (but not too many).

Think about this time last year, when we approaching 2017. Who were you then? Have you changed since then? One thing I can say is yes more than likely that you have. Every year we grow, transform and sometimes regress backwards. It can happen.

It is always good to look back and see where we are now and to then look forward.

But firstly look back, back to the year behind us. What milestones have you reached? What steps have you taken to reach your goals and dreams? What mistakes have you made? Look at the sand within the hour-glass and see it full, soon you will turn it over to start again.

When I look at my milestones and achievements I look at how I eventually passed my theory test on my driving, something which held me back all them years ago when I initially started to learn to drive. I think I was scared of the failure, a slight perfectionism within me, but now not so much. Instead I jumped in and did it.

I volunteered with my local GP for an initiative not just because I wanted to help others, but really help myself. As someone who is unemployed and still is I wanted to be involved in something. Put my talents and skills to use, as well as building my confidence. Which it has. Now I am confident because I decided to jump in. You might have noticed a theme here.

I decided to take risks more, some small and others big like volunteering in meeting new people and gaining their trust in completing tasks. I took the risk of restarting this blog and become dedicated to posting on set days, hoping people will read it. If they don’t I carry on because it helps me, as writing is a passion of mine and I just keep writing!!

But one flaw I do have is not wanting to do things on my own. I said I have confidence, but not always enough courage and self belief that I can do something on my own and it will be okay. I would love to travel more and see places like you see people do on their own all the time, someday I just might be like that, but that is something I need to work on.

One thing that may have impacted your year is the people who have come and gone from your life this year. This is something I can relate to whole heartedly as earlier in the year I lost a friend who I met on my dialysis/transplant journey. I remember hearing off Natalie’s mum knowing that it was either she had a transplant or had died, unfortunately it was the latter. I was devastated in hearing she had gone, but I had hope in remembering the good times we had, the moments we shared. Even though we weren’t close, we still talked every now and then. So I believe people come and go in and out of our lives for a reason, a purpose. What that is I cannot say, as everyone is different, but remembering them keeps them alive and the impact they have on you.

Furthermore upon the subject of people and the expectations we portray and receive. I always try and treat people the way I want to be treated, but a lot of the time it is not returned. I and like many others find this disappointing that you sound get the same back as you might have done for other. My advice for that and something I learnt is know your limits with people, only take so much before you make a change in your behaviour or even to that person. It may sound harsh, but take into next year of knowing your individual limits and not over sacrificing for someone else, who doesn’t always appreciate what you have done and who you are as a person!

In looking forward 2018 will bring the same triumphs, tribulations, happiness and sorrow as before it just in how we deal with it all. Whatever may hit you in the upcoming year, just bring it and take it on head first!

The form of etiquette

When I was a child I was always taught my manners of please and thank you. Always write a thank you note in recognition for a present for Christmas and birthdays. Say sorry and mean it, if you are in the wrong. One thing I really have noticed is how manners and shall I say etiquette have gone out of the window.

I find nowadays people are more rude than before. One thing I have noticed which is my ultimate pet peeve is when people are walking and looking down at their phone and are not looking where they are walking. But best part is when they bump into you as if it is your fault, even though you are watching where you are going and have moved to avoid them, they still give you a look as if you are in the wrong. Better yet they ignore you and just walk mindlessly along.

Honestly I wish you would LOOK UP from your phone and take in the world around you, rather than keeping it all virtual. There is a lot going on around you as well, plus it would save you keep bumping into people.

Talking of phones, another thing that annoys me is phone on the table when you are out for lunch with someone. Put the phone away, talk to the person opposite you and pay attention. Put your phone away. Engage with the people around you who actually want to spend time with you, not a food picture to get more followers on Instagram.

Furthermore if someone opens a door for you or keep it open, then say THANK YOU! Two words that show appreciation. Remember them. Thank you is important whether it be in person or a note. We all like to be appreciated.

Lastly say please. It can go a long way!

Challenge yourself with small changes

Currently I do not have a job, not for lack of wanting but more of struggling for the opportunity. So because of this I decided that I needed to do something to keep me active. An opportunity came in the way of becoming a volunteer.

The only time I have ever volunteered was for open days for a few hours and nothing more serious than that, so for myself to do this was a big step as I have had confidence issues and self-doubt of where I wanted to be and if I was on the right path. When a general message went out to see if anyone wanted to volunteer I took the plunge. I am glad I did. That was back in March of this year. Since then I went to two workshops to get to grips with what the volunteering would entail, got to know some fabulous people. Gone to many meetings and helped to create posters, events and taken many a minute of a meeting.

From my volunteering I have noticed a big difference in myself. I have grown in confidence and feel like I have got back to an older, but more improved version of myself. I have gotten my creative bug again which seemed to disappear. What I love is that I am growing as a person. I am not just helping myself, but also the community I am within. In helping myself I can enable myself to help others a lot better, for that I am grateful.

For me it was becoming a volunteer that has helped me. But for you it might be something else. Whatever it may be, do it. Take the plunge and just do it. You never know what may come of it and how helping yourself first will also help others in the long run. Maybe you have always wanted to blog/vlog and was never sure to what to say or write, just do it!

If you are not happy, make a change no matter how big or small, it is a change. It always starts with a baby step and in a few weeks, months or years time you might start running for miles and not stop to you end up to where YOU want to be! That is what counts your own happiness.

Christmas comes early

A word most of us do not really want to see or hear until the later end of November to early December when Advent starts. But here I am mentioning the C word because I have seen a post about Christmas cards on sale already, and it is only September!

I am no Scrooge and I adore the festive spirit by the way. My gripe is it is only September. Not even had Halloween or Guy Fawkes yet. I do like festival celebrations like everybody else, but this is commercialisation to another level and also an unnecessary level.

Really this is just a short post, more of my horror at how a religious holiday is commercialised to the excess. Usually I do not comment on such matters but I had a compelling need to say something about it.

New Year Resolutions

First of all happy new year to everyone and I hope it was a good celebration into 2017.

My blog post today will be looking at new year resolutions. Many of us make them and there are those who will roll their eyes just at seeing the title. Don’t worry it is not forcing you to make them, but just my opinion on them.

I like every year make resolutions, but I never keep them. This time however I have a slightly different mind-set to them. I hope you do to! Instead of seeing it as a resolution, something to fix as that is what a resolution is, to resolve something. Instead see it as a goal.

I decided to put these goals into something to do, learn and keep.

Something to do could be anything from loosing weight, stop smoking, get more active to trying to get up and be a morning person.

Something to learn is as it says whether you want to learn a new skill like a language or to dance to even reading a book in a subject area you would have never done before. Do it!

Something to keep is taking something in 2016 you were proud of and continuing in the next year, for me that is to keep writing whether it is in a journal or on this blog. For me it is something I was proud to get back into. So what achievement are your proud to continue?

As well know they are all ways to improve us mentally and physically as well as emotionally. But if you have a bad day where you feel like you failed. Do not worry, it happens we are all human after all. If you have a day where you go off-balance then take the next day as a new day and keep going. As most resolutions/goals we make are not going to be finished by the 31st January, it is a journey throughout the year. Take each day as it comes, rather than each month.

Take care and good luck with what you have chosen to achieve.